Overcoming Fear of the Unknown

My best friend in the whole entire world, Sydney, was trying to teach me how to use Twitter today. I do have an account and I do use it from time to time, but I really, honestly have no idea what I’m doing. Sydney said, “The best way to learn how to use it is just to click some buttons and see what they do.” She then went on to say, “It’s kinda like anything in life—sometimes you just have to try it and see what happens.” Thanks for your wise words, Syd, 1) because they gave me some perspective and reiterated an essential life lesson and 2) because they gave me a blog idea!

How do you know if you like something until you try it? And the opposite is true as well—how do you know if you don’t like something until you try it? How will you learn new things if you don’t try (kind of like this whole Twitter situation)? The simple answer to all of these questions is, “You don’t.”

Lots of us thrive on routine and live in fear of change (fear of the unknown). I will admit I am one of those people. Change can be scary, but it can also be absolutely wonderful and can fully enrich your life—but how will you know until you try? We often seek comfort in things that are familiar to us, things that we already know we like. With trying new things comes growth, experience, and strength. It allows us to realize that while we are creatures of habit, we can still come out of our shells and be fine. How can you possibly grow by repeating the same habits over and over again? You can’t. You can only learn from trying new things and from having new experiences (and by going to school, of course, but that’s not my point). The best lessons in life are learned by experiencing, trust me on that one!

 

 

“If you don’t go after what you want, you’ll never have it. If you don’t ask, the answer is always no. If you don’t step forward, you’re always in the same place.”

–Nora Roberts

Second Chances, Strength, and No Regrets

“If you have made mistakes, even serious ones, there is always another chance for you. What we call failure is not the falling down, but the staying down.” – Mary Pickford

When I woke up this morning, my parents were watching CBS Sunday Morning. The cover story was about an ex-convict turned student, lawyer, and husband. He had been a successful high school student and football player who graduated with scholarships and planned to attend college. He couldn’t handle the stresses of college, dropped out after a semester, had a few jobs, married, had a child, and divorced. He then turned to drugs and alcohol and was convicted for several armed robberies. Sentenced to 20 years in prison, he thought his life was over. But, he turned things around for himself and took correspondence college courses in prison and was released 13 years early. He finished law school, got a job, and remarried. He is waiting to hear about his score on the BAR exam and he and his wife are expecting.

This story absolutely got me thinking about my life, second chances, and what wisdom I can impart on the blog world. We have to take each day as it comes and live life to the fullest because while this man did get a second chance, life may not always allow for that. A lesson that this man tries to teach everyone (especially those in prison—he goes and speaks to them about second chances) is that there are no excuses for not trying. He is the prime example of his lesson. There is no reason that an ex-con can’t make it because this man is proof positive that that’s just not true.

Life Tips:

  1. Second chances are rare but when given the opportunity, take advantage of them.
  2. Don’t live with regret because no matter how good or bad your experience is, you can always learn a lesson.
  3. Believe in your dreams and run with them—they will become your future.
  4. Find your niche in the world and set your mind, heart, and soul to anything that you think is worth accomplishing.
  5. Always make time for things that are important to you.